Do you laugh in stressful situations?
So often in a stressful situation I find myself laughing.
I am sorry to say I will also laugh at the wrong things, and very often at myself.
Perhaps we should not take ourselves so seriously?
Nobody is perfect thank goodness!
Selling Real Estate is a commission based industry in most countries, so you are “unemployed” every time you sell your last listing.
Stressful? Yes – very!
Dealing with one of the most stressful events in a person’s life day in and day out often makes you ignore it when people are rude or demanding.
It does not mean that you have to put up with it – definitely not.
But their behaviour says more about them than you, so you have to step back and ask yourself ” what is going on in their life to make them so stressed or miserable?”
People sell houses for all sorts of reasons
Some will up size, some will down size, some will divorce and some will move towns, but then there are many who will sell when their loved ones die.
For me these sales have always been the hardest.
Sales where a loved one has died or a divorce is in progress.
They are sales to be handled gently and with extra kindness, empathy and understanding.
These are the sellers who need to be protected from making the wrong decision
Emotion plays a huge part in all of our lives, but more so when we are affected with loss of our old normal and are trying to find a new normal.
When I lost my own husband to Cancer after 2 very difficult years and a brave fight, selling my own house became a very personal and stressful situation.
I sold my own house, as I felt I knew it best and even with 30 + years of experience in Real Estate, I felt afterwards that I should have perhaps stepped, as I was emotionally involved.
When it came down to deciding which offer to accept, I found that I chose the most considerate buyers over the most money. I needed to know that the buyers would care for my home and garden with its vibrant memories with gentle consideration.
The benefits of laughter
I read somewhere that humans begin to laugh apparently at about 3 -4 months of age.
If you hear a baby laugh you smile automatically – well I know I do!
Children apparently laugh on average 300 times a day.
Adults sadly averaged out to less than 20 times a day, or so the study said.
A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
Laughter supposedly boosts the immune system and decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, therefore improving your resistance to disease.
Laughter also regulates blood pressure.
A 2006 Norwegian study found people with a sense of humour have a 30 per cent better chance of survival when severe disease strikes.
Several other studies about the effects of laughter on illness are notable, namely that laughter leads to pain relief, probably through the release of endorphins.
Laughter therapy is also practiced for people who are depressed or ill.
Humour can also strengthen the bond of a therapeutic relationship.
Patients who laugh with their physicians are more likely to feel connected with them, and will gladly follow their advice.
Consider also the use of laughter in altering a stressful event, be it in a meeting, or maybe when the generations collide and misunderstandings occur.
Laughter and humour should always be used in a sensitive way though, especially so that one does not minimise the seriousness of an event in a person’s life, whatever it may be.
Many people do not laugh as much as they should and often will concentrate on the negatives, so they seem to go deeper into the gloom.
Isn’t it therefore better to find something that you are grateful for and adopt an “attitude of gratitude?”
Growing up, I was always told when I complained about something that there was always somebody worse off than me.
No matter who you are, there is always somebody worse off than you – this is absolutely true.
Seek out the good in people and look for that silver lining, and perhaps things might start to feel a lot better when the days are dark and gloomy and the future seemingly bleak.
Nothing stays the same forever. Believe in that silver lining and smile and you will probably make somebody’s day